I work with a lot of men, and I’ve found that they often don’t want to come in for couples therapy at first.  They think it will just make both people feel worse, or that they’ll be blamed for the problems, or have to talk about things they’d rather keep private. 

In those cases I focus in the couples counseling on skills training: explaining, using examples from the couple's life, practicing and doing homework.  There are a few relationship habits that, when learned, can transform the ways that couples communicate.  They’re based on decades of some of the most powerful research ever done in psychology.  What makes relationships fail, and what makes relationships work?  We know a lot about that, and these are skills you can learn.